Saturday, March 30, 2019
That you can’t even be there when I get there
It’s like when the keys are half way out of your pocket and you’re unaware. Seeing the keys just hanging there, but unable to say- Hey man, your keys are falling out. Somewhere throughout the day- keys are dropped. Unbeknownst where, leaving a mess of a time trying to find them. Backtracking your every move. Realizing how much you should have just ensured they were secure. Dealing with the aftermath of replacing locks, getting new keys. The price you pay for simply losing one set of keys.
I feel it. I see it. I know it. It’s familiar to me. It’s what happens.
I’ve tried talking and pointing out the obvious signs. I’ve realized though- the signs weren’t pointing towards him. They were directed at me. I’m the one losing the keys here. Losing keys is hard.
Thursday, June 7, 2018
Don’t pry your crying eyes
Friday, February 9, 2018
See you when I see you
Sunday, July 30, 2017
That girl, she ain't gonna be okay...
100 days of learning. 100 days of grieving. 100 days of wonder. 100 days of loneliness.
100 days have come and gone and not a thing has changed. I'm holding on to everything that surrounds me so tightly because I know how it feels to lose something or someone. I struggle with being the one who never gives up.
You'd think that would be a good thing. In reality though, its what swallows me. Leaves me broken.
I'm ready to not be so broken anymore. I'm ready to move forward and use my lessons for the greater good in life.
I'm ready to be happy. To have something for myself that I can call my own. Something that no one in the world can take away from me.
The problem is...I've got to train myself to do things differently. I've got to take what I have and change it. Change everything. I'm usually good with accepting change but that's when its forced.
Its my turn to build and I plan to build mountains. Wish me luck. I'm gonna need it.
Saturday, November 14, 2015
No feelings left
is the darkest path at night
You reach out your hand
Clearly not up for the fight.
Thoughts cloud the light
leaving you blind
The weight of the pain
always keeps you behind.
I sure hope the world tells me when to get it over this. Otherwise, I'll never look elsewhere.
Sunday, September 27, 2015
I didn't know it would be today
When this happens, you lose your ability to think clearly and concisely. You forget the important stuff. The questions you wanted to ask. The advice you will need for later. The memories spoken just once more.
Eventually, you accept it. You do this because you have to, there is no choice in it. Accepting it isn't the same as being okay with it though. It doesn't mean you understand. You have moments throughout your life that you are automatically going to go to that place your loved one once was. The place your routine is used to. Days, weeks, years. It doesn't matter how much time has passed. Your mind will always go to them.
Its in these instances that your heart breaks over and over again. Sometimes to the point of feeling huge weights on your chest, as if you may choke.
Reality...what a terrible thing.
When your little, you always look to your dad. The most important man in your life. You want to make him proud. You want to make him happy. You want him to know he has raised you the right way. You want to show him that you've created greatness from the life he gave to you.
Just because my dad is dead doesn't mean its okay for me to forget this. I still want him to be proud of me. I want to show him I was worth it. That he made a difference.
Then I have days like today.
Today, someone that I love was very mean to me. They called me horrible names. They physically harmed me. They made me feel like I was nothing. They degraded me so low that for a while tonight I didn't think I'd be able to dig out.
While this was happening, I was embarrassed. I embarrassed myself. I allowed the actions of another to control me. I allowed them to pull me down to their level. I allowed this monster to come into my life. I allowed myself to love this person.
Reflecting now, only hours later...I get to thinking...
What would dad think of all of this?
The answer to that question is the answer I needed to remember in order to know where to go from here.
So...here I am, two years, four months, and five days after my dad's death...and he is still there for me. He is still lending me his guidance.
Who would have thought that possible?
Where God will bless our love once again
Saturday, July 4, 2015
Don't share your devils with me
Saturday, May 30, 2015
At least I careD
Saturday, May 2, 2015
it can happen
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Breakdown
One of the worst feelings in the world is when there isn't a soul in the world that has faith in you. When you, yourself, feel hopeless. When you wake up in the morning and don't want to face the day. When you realize that the life you've made for yourself really is a bucket of nothing. When the bad far outweighs the good because good does not exist.
This weight is unbearable. Its unfair. This is when you are stuck. It's in this moment when you find yourself wondering if you are up for the fight. Is the fight worth it? How can you be sure you want to fight? The fear of not knowing if it will work stops you in your tracks. It's like staring down that barrel, in hopes it won't shoot. Hope is hard to come by though, so you fail to have the desire to stare.
I try to understand the reasoning behind the struggles I am faced with. Why is this happening? What did I do to get myself into this mess? How could I have avoided it? How do I get out of it? Can I get out of it? Will things ever be better? Will I ever be content?
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Do whatever you want
Illumination
Sunday, March 22, 2015
Dear Daniel
You've made me feel worthless. Throughout the past few months, I have begun to belittle myself to suffice you and your opinions of how things are supposed to be.
You have made me feel ugly. Inside and out. I- right this very moment, feel ugly. You have given me no other inkling that I should feel otherwise. You have made this extremely clear to me. In your eyes, I am ugly.
You have made me feel unwanted. You have turned your back many times when my back needed yours. You have looked passed my sadness and pretended it didn't exist. You have chosen so many other options before ever thinking of choosing me.
You have made me feel stupid. You have taken my feelings and turned them into mud. You have called me a baby when I was sad. You told me I was a complainer when I felt ill. You have closed your eyes at the mere thought of having to listen to my "ramble".
You have made me feel unappreciated. You have taken for granted the very things I do to make you happy. You have taken my hand and dropped it when it no longer satisfied your needs in that moment. You have taken from me so much I cannot get back and never once have you said thank you.
You have made me feel hopeless. You have heard my struggles and still continue to bypass them. You have made excuses as to why things will never change. You have told me you cannot help this. You have promised me the world, but I have yet to see this world in which you speak of.
You have made me feel lonely. You have sat beside me unbeknownst to you though...I was beside you. You have turned around when I faced you. You have shown a desire for something great when I was there the whole time.
One day- you will wish that you hadn't made me feel worthless. You will see me shine, but will no longer be in my light.
One day- you will wish you hadn't made me feel ugly. When you are facing this dark and harsh world alone, you will look back and see how beautiful I really am. By then, it will be too late.
One day- you will wish that you hadn't made me feel stupid. There will come a day when you will need my guidance and knowledge. This will have already run out for you.
One day- you will wish that you hadn't made me feel unappreciated. When you are staring at an empty bed at night, you will hurt for me to be there. You will miss me when I am not there.
One day- you will wish that you hadn't made me feel hopeless. When my dreams are coming true and you are only a bystander, you will yearn to be a part of my greatness. I won't be so kind as to share it anymore though.
One day- you will wish that you hadn't made me feel lonely. When you are reaching out for a hand to hold, someone to get you through the day- I will be holding my own hands. I will have no spare hands left for you.
Saturday, December 6, 2014
Semaj Rawna
Through the elevator doors...where we are.
Greatest escapes...in brisk cold air
Company kept...as we always did there.
Comfort well chosen...for the needs to be
Wrapped into arms...safe enough for me.
What are you typing?
Last night was a horrible night. Glad to say that it's over and (almost) done with.
A few nights ago...I had a strange and quite scary dream. I was havnig a party of some sorts in the back yard...with most of my family, when out of no where my house lights up and is on fire. At the beginning of this fire, it was only the upstairs of my home that was amid flames. During this time...my mother and boyfriend began taking things from out of the kitchen and bottom floor of the house to "save" things as quick as they could before the fire reached the downstairs. They sat there in conversations...saving things. It didn't seem like they were the least bit hasty in saving things. In the midst of this horrible incident...I realize there are people upstairs- where the fire is. So of course, I run up there to save them. In doing this- I get stuck. On steps, maybe? Then a hand appears. The hand of my boyfriend. When I touch this hand...it isn't his. I can immediately tell, it isn't his. But it appears to be him. I denied this hand and waited for my boyfriend's hand. Meanwhile...the ones I thought were upstairs were not. Turns out...two others were up there..who ended up dead.
Dreams have such a way of opening your thoughts and your mind to meanings and possiblities. They hold so much strength behind them that most fail to notice. I have always been a believer that my dreams meant something. That maybe they were trying to tell me something. I haven't always have a great track record with this...but when that record was great- it was well worth all the failures...as scary as they were. I'm not completely sure what this all means. I've had a million different things going through my mind over the past few days and weeks that it could have been triggered by a hundred things. A hundred conversations. A hundred moments of sadness. Who knows. But when it does happen (the reason for the dream)...I'd like to think that I will immediately understand the reasoning. The warning will be clear. I just wish the warning was more to clear to me now as opposed to waiting for failure to happen.
Make sure you turn off that light when you leave
I miss him. Immensely. There are no words to describe the aching desire to have him back. I would give anything to have him back for only a few moments. I would give up my whole world just to hear him play one more song on his guitar, rocking out to some silly old music.
When I think back over my fathers life- I realize that he didn't have much to contribute to his life. He didn't have fancy cars and clothes. He didn't get to take those exotic vacations that one dreams of taking. He didn't get those "night out on the town" nights. He didn't have much of anything.
He was a simple man. He worked everyday, for as long as I can remember. He left early in the mornings, before the sun showed it's face. He came home late, when the sun had already left for the evening. He would walk in, with that box in hand, exhausted. Ready to clean the day off of him and rest for tomorrow's tasks.
He didn't get to have much that he enjoyed. He didn't go out with friends, go to parties, go to restaurants. He didn't go bowling or play sports. He didn't have any of those things that most people fill their lives with. With this void, he still...always seemed content with his life. Day in and day out, content.
He was a family man. He loved his family. He loved those who weren't even family. He loved people. He loved everyone. He was a very humble man. He did what he needed to do to ensure that his family was okay and happy. Regardless of what made him happy, and without giving into his own want of happiness- he did what he needed to do for others. He lived his whole life this way.
But why did he do this? Why did he throw his happiness to the side to suffice everyone else? Why did he make so many self sacrifices to ensure the world around his was okay?
I wish I knew. I wish I knew how he was able to survive this way. I wish I knew what kept him going each day. I wish I knew his reasoning.
There are far too many selfish and ignorant people in this world that would never come anywhere close to the kind of person my father was. My father's death is a great loss to this terrible world we live in.
Hugging pillows instead of people...
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
Don"t wanna burn by myself
I woke up a day and so ago with just pure anguish being poured overtop of me. I'm pretty sure that it was brought on by some random triggers going on lately, but still...I thought I was getting away from all of this.
I miss her. I am still filled with anger. I am still at war with myself because of this. I have so much guilt built up inside of me that sometimes it reminds me of a house fire. Swallowing up the home, the memories, the foundation. When that fire is out, the remains are a few random pieces of burnt furniture and some broken glass. Water has damaged anything that would have or could have hoped to be salvaged in the midst of the saving.
I am that mess, those remains.
No one else knows this though. I will not let that happen.
Sunday, September 28, 2014
Leave a world behind
At the end of my days, I think...I want out. I need out. Get me out.
This cannot be normal.
The bigger issue here...what brings me back to this each and every time? People say that things happen for reasons. I wish I knew those reasons. Sometimes I use that as an excuse to deal with it for just one more day. "Let's just go through one more day. It won't be so bad".
But then...tomorrow happens. With these tomorrow's, I find myself faced with the same question. How many times can one ask themselves the same question and give the same stupid questions?
Thursday, August 21, 2014
Waiting is what I'll do...
What can I tell you about Daniel? There isn't enough words in the world to describe what he means to me. There are no where near enough experiences that one could have-to compare what he has brought into my life.
With him, it's easy. I don't have to be someone I'm not. I don't have to pretend the world is any different than what it seems. It's almost as if he and I were soul mates. Always meant to share days with one another. Always.
With him, I feel safe. When I say safe, I mean- not on defense mode. I can talk to him and share things with him like no one else. I can give myself entirely to him without expecting or fearing that it will be returned defectively.
With him, things are okay. It does not matter what sort of nonsense the days throw at me, things will be okay. Having him to come home to, at the end of the night- assures me that I don't have to worry. I don't have to question. Everything is going to be okay.